Start Somewhere
In 2017, while riding to Francis Marion University for move-in day, I posted on Instagram a phrase, just two words: “Start Somewhere.”

I remember feeling so empowered, grateful, and somewhat nervous. I was leaving home to attend school. No parent to wake me up, no siblings to debrief with at the kitchen table, and no true knowledge of what being a college student entails. I was a first-generation student, taking a road less traveled. Graduating in four years was the intent, but, like anything new, it was difficult. You have to learn how to adapt. In college, you will need to develop skills in networking and studying, find a hobby that challenges you, and create a routine that encourages healthy habits.
College is where the true process of becoming who you are starts. As you walk onto that campus, the main goal for any student there is to graduate. While the goal is an important focal point, graduating only happens if you have the proper tools and skills to make that goal become a part of your reality. The responsibility is all yours. You have to make sure that you are committed to a schedule that works for you. I am sure by now you have heard that 8 am classes are not as fun as they were when you were in high school. Make sure that you are comfortable with your schedule and the assignments that come with it. The syllabus for every course is a guideline to assist you. Using it alongside a yearly planner helps you stay prepared and provides a sense of clarity. Meet with your professors and visit during their office hours.
Do not be afraid to ask questions about what they are teaching, especially if you are confused. Talking to your professors will help you build your networking and relationship-building skills. They’re not there just to teach, but also to guide you in your undergraduate career and so on. Studying is an imperative component of being a thriving scholar. You have to determine what works for you. There are different types of learning styles, such as auditory, visual, kinesthetic, and reading and writing. Deciding which style serves you best will sharpen your knowledge. Every student is different, and what may work for you may not work for everyone else. Find study partners, pick each other's brains, and listen.
When studying gets overwhelming, it's very useful to take a break every 10 minutes, especially when you are looking at a screen for a long time. Taking multiple courses during a semester is normal, and the workload can be rigorous. It is good to know when to relax and take a break to help relieve your mind and body from exhaustion. You are human, and not everything will be perfect. Yes, the goal is to graduate, but you can’t get to the finish line if you don’t know how to balance. Being involved on campus has its benefits. Starting anew also means being receptive to new friendships and connections. So many groups and organizations are looking for fresh faces and new perspectives. College is not all about work; it’s about having fun too!
There will be some groups that pique your interest, even if they are not involved with your major. Having an open mind allows you to explore hobbies and relationships during your stay in your college town. You allow yourself to learn how to communicate, problem-solve, and network. Not to mention that you are also forming lifelong friendships. College is more than just the courses. It’s also about getting to know who you are and discovering yourself as a human being. Think about it: for the first time, you are in a place without parents or guardians, siblings, or even that one friend you had since pre-school. There will be challenges in areas that cause you discomfort, and you may even feel heavy. Those times will strengthen you and your experience. There will be many great days, great exams, and great conversations.
Sometimes those are met with bad days, bad exams, and extremely hard truths. Starting somewhere is knowing that you will forever evolve. Yes, you are young, and the lie is that you won’t have any time. There isn’t a clock, no real timeline, and no clear idea of when the perfect time is. The goal is not only graduate as a student, but to graduate as you. The young woman or young man who walks on campus this fall will not be the same person who will graduate in 4 years, or longer, if you’re anything like me. ( You will be fine.) If I could go back to 2017 and tell myself anything, it would be that the journey you are about to embark on is the one you have to embrace.
The only way to walk across the stage is to walk through each semester and move forward. So, if you are wondering what this August will bring, it’ll bring you into a new season for your life. There is no promise that it won’t come with its challenges, but I want to encourage you not to dwell on what doesn't feel good. When you are overwhelmed, talk to someone. When you feel stuck or frustrated, go for a walk around the campus. Dance to your favorite song that exudes joy. When you want to cry, cry and don’t hold back. There are resources on your campus that will help you. Give yourself credit. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace and enjoy the art of starting somewhere.









